Self-Awareness in Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be consciously aware of what emotion you are feeling and why you are feeling that emotion in any given moment. It is the ability to recognize how emotions affect personal performance and guide decision-making.
To be truly aware of an emotional state of being is a powerful achievement. To be able to accurately conduct a self-assessment is more than just a surface level awareness. It is a conscious and unconscious connection to your true inner self.
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.Carl Jung
The self-assessment provides a clear vision of personal strengths and weaknesses, seeing a need for improvement while learning from experience. When one gains this level of awareness, it increases self-confidence in our own capabilities, values, and goals.
Self-awareness in not necessarily about discovering all of the deep, dark secrets of your unconscious. It is knowing what makes your emotions rise to the surface and why. It is knowing how your emotions have controlled your actions and decisions in the past, and how you can change that moving forward.
And, more often than not, Gestalt emotional responses (anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt) are rooted with something that we have not yet resolved within ourselves. That which may be buried by the conscious until we are ready to deal with it. These emotions will resurface over time until we deal with the root cause.
That being said, it is important to understand that we are human. Part of our being is in emotion. It is through emotional responses that humans survived (fight or flight). It is equally important to acknowledge the emotional response rather than suppress it. It is okay to have emotions and to express emotions. There is a time and place for everything.
This is where I will leave it off for next week’s topic: Self-Management.
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