Embracing Your Authentic Self

“The power for authentic leadership is found not in external arrangements, but in the human heart.”

Parker J Palmer, American author, educator, and activist

What does that mean to you? This is not a right or wrong question. It is simply asking what it means to you, personally.

To me, it means that if I want to live true to myself while leading others to do the same, I must look inside myself and embrace who I choose to be. I must reflect that choice in all areas of my life (public and private). And if there is a part of me that I do not like, I get to make the choice to change it.

Authenticity builds trust. It is a level of openness that builds relationships. It is living transparently. We are the creators of who we are. We are not that which has happened to us in the past, those are merely experiences that have shaped our perceptions. We choose who we are.

Did you know that you can change your perceptions any time you want?

We are not our past selves. Every day we grow and learn. Part of living authentically today is accepting and loving the past you. She/He got you through to today.

We get to define who we are and are not. This is not a universal definition. There are roughly 8 billion people in the world. How boring would the world be if we were all the same?

Defining the self requires serious reflection and shaking the very core of yourself, your values and beliefs. If the foundation of who you are is not solid, it’ll crack and fall apart. And people can pick up when you are not true to yourself.

Besides, it’s a LOT of work to remember everything you tell everyone else… every action you take in public. Why work so hard to be someone you’re not?

Authenticity is being conscious of what you are saying and doing, how it impacts everyone around you. It is releasing the idea of living up to other people’s expectations. It is releasing the need to be loved by all, accepted by all. It is moving past societal expectations to be true to yourself.

I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea. And I’m ok with that. I’m often told that people either love me or hate me. Well, that’s not my problem.

When you are true to yourself, you no longer need to worry about keeping track of what you told one person or another. You gain confidence. You gain inner peace. You become congruent in life.

Don’t like something about yourself? Make the choice to change it. What’s the purpose of not being you?

If you are struggling with defining and embracing your true self, email me: thedmwomanllc@gmail.com

If you are done with living in the past, of allowing others to define you, set up an appointment today to see how I can help define you.